If you are waiting to become a finished product you are waiting for death

Darkness, Faith, Growth, Hope, Inner child, Inspire, Never give up, Reconnecting, Self love, Small steps, Vulnerability, writing

I am aware of the harsh title of this blog however it is time to start living your life now. We have all done it and said it, many times. “When I get a better job I will be sorted”. “When I lose weight life will be great”. This place, this time, this “when” is now and can only ever be now. We are not alive in the past nor in the future. If either of these places is how you travel through your life then stop and reflect on where you are going. It is only by being right here in this very moment and connecting with now that you touch ‘alive’. You touch life.

Reaching this level of consciousness, this level of awareness requires visiting some dark places. I am not going to lie and say this is easy however I know for a fact that it is never as bad as how you imagined it to be. The unknown always appears larger than it actually is. Getting to the point of knowing that something has to change, you have to change brings every emotion out of the woodwork.

There is a knowing deep inside of you that is calling you. It is not scientific or magical in that sense. It is something very beautiful. It is you.

Your true self, your younger self, your innocent self wants to meet up. You want to connect. You need to connect. Without connection there is a disconnect. With disconnection there is separation. With separation you are alone.

We all know that you can be in a room full of people and still be alone. It is a horrific feeling at times. Somewhere along the journey of your life you left a part(s) of yourself and they are missing you. They have been trying to tell you for a long time but you have not been listening. When you didn’t listen I cried. I still needed you so I tried to get your attention in different ways. When I shouted at you I hurt you. I am not sorry. I did that out of love, for you. I love you and I just wouldn’t stop trying to tell you until you heard me. That is what real love is. It is not flowers and chocolates. It is not dishonesty. It is honest and brave and relentless. It will never give up on you. You are just not listening, not open. You need to be open to receive. Open your heart to love. Open your heart to you.

Love

Sophie Marie x

Is your home a reflection of ‘you’ or a copy of the latest trends

Art, Inspire, Interior Decoration, Interior design

Here is my most loved piece of furniture standing proud against the depth of the purple wall, my gallery wall. In order to show the piece in its glory I have chosen a few personal items to bring it to life. The colour of the green in the plants looks stunning with the purple and picks up the green in this original, abstract piece above. The striking orange sits beautifully with the other items, the real treasure being how none of the items are lost. You can see each piece separately and the effect of the whole story.

Photo frames are of different design, all bringing to the table something different, something unique, me. Try not to be afraid of mixing styles up, this is what creates visual impact. I do not normally use more than one of the same item however in this example a standalone plant of this size would not have created the same impact.

I do not believe in matching in the basic sense of the word, this makes a home look ‘uniform’. This vintage bear I found at a car boot sale, at only a few pounds looks perfect stood next to the photo frame. My answer to a lot of my interiors and to my life in general is “why not”.

Interiors should be about personality and all of the areas of your home should show yours. I think a truly beautiful, inspiring home is one where you walk in and you immediately know who the home belongs to. You can see that person or those people in it.

Your home should not be a ‘show’ home, it should be ‘your’ home. Sophie Marie

If you walk around your home, do you see things or do you see people? Things being used to describe items that are ‘in vogue’ or the latest colour. It is apparent when this has happened as you will see lots of that type of item and lots of items in that particular colour, overkill.

Less is always more and although there are a few items on this sideboard, the items are carefully chosen to create a feeling of oneness, happiness and in keeping with me. The people in a home should always be at the forefront of how and what you decorate or design not just material things for the sake of decoration. If you only have one or two items of decoration that you love, just use those. You do not have to ‘fill’ a room, doing so will lose character and this is the essence of what you are looking to create.

I believe that is when you go from a house to a home. A home is filled with you, the people that you love and all of your personalities echoing in each room.

Next time you buy something for your home ask yourself “do I like it or is it me?”. I guarantee if it is you it will be cherished and kept for a long time and not updated with the next season.

The world is not throw away so why should your home be. Sophie Marie

Original, abstract piece available for sale (see Gallery)

‘Somewhere’  Acrylic on canvas 30 x 24.5″ £75

 

With inspiration

 

Sophie Marie

 

Connecting deeper to your core

Belief, Hope, Inspire, Minimalism, Self love, Share the love, Uncategorized

As I looked back to see how long it has been since my last post, I realised that I still had a draft post which I had forgotten to publish. I think I was waiting for a photo and then forgot in the midst of life at the moment. Forget the photo for now I have just sent it out.

I have been thinking about how I have not been writing for quite a while. To be honest, with the challenges I have going on at the moment I have been focusing on these and as such I have felt a bit stuck about posting however much I wanted to. I have felt a barrier which I have not liked but have accepted. The positive is that I have been working really hard on these current life challenges, I am no longer prepared to be silent or to keep my voice hidden, me hidden as I do not deserve to hide. I truly believe that all of this is happening for a reason and that I need to face and come to terms with how life was previously before I chose me and my freedom. I let out a deeper breath. I know there is work to be done here and it will come out when it is ready.

A friend of mine had to cancel coffee and catch up this morning, I was disappointed as this was something for me, time away from everything that I had given to myself and was looking forward to. I am still doing what I would have done and just had a nice stroll through the park just reflecting on life, nature and myself and I am treating myself to a coffee whilst I write. With funds as they are at the moment coffee is a big luxury however one coffee will be ok as I need and deserve this time for me, to reflect, to offload, to come to terms with things, to release. I need to be with myself today and love myself more.

I am really happy that I am still meditating every single night before bed and have also increased to sometimes during the day as well. I truly love meditation and how it makes me feel. It really is something that you build on and learn to build into your life with other kinds of self care and I know it is something that I would like to expand on in many ways. It is a way of keeping a protective barrier around you, it enables you to go deeper within yourself and almost like digging really deep within yourself and giving yourself a big hug. That is how I describe it anyway. I guess for me it connects to feeling closer to God and I am learning more every day what I think that means for me. I feel that this feeling of being closer to God and more protected going through struggles and challenges is me being closer to myself. When I used to hear in church about God being in you I never could connect with that concept however more recently I have felt more connection. I feel God is around/in me and I am around/in God as God for me is a higher, deeper state of being and I know that I have reached this deeper state of being lately. I have connected even deeper to myself and I have found that as this has happened I have felt so much less isolated.

I feel that the isolation I have felt is an isolation from some parts of myself and because I have still not got deep enough in myself and with myself. I do feel connected to myself and thankfully have done for a while however I now feel a deeper connection as I know I am connecting and getting in touch even more with my true being, my true self and this is where the isolation dissipates. I am feeling what I want more and more and what I feel I would like to be doing in my life at the moment, what is calling to me at my core.

I have been putting out a few more of our personal items around our home and this has felt so good. It has been lovely and so exciting to see items that have been packed away put out on display and looking at our home as a whole with all the aspects of it. I really love our home and all of the work that I am doing in it. I saved a shelf from a vintage bookcase that I bought a while ago as the shelf itself is stunning. It is very plain however the colour of it will look beautiful against the dark purple walls and I am going to look in a while for some brackets to hold the shelf up. I have the idea in my mind and I would like to try and get that designed this weekend if not today. I have an industrial hanging light, very subdued on the wall in my living room alcove and my idea now is to put the shelf near this light and display some other items of ours on this area. I get creative ideas for items that I may have saved a long time ago or that had previously been used elsewhere and I can then visualise giving them a new life in a different place. This excites me greatly, this is when I can connect with my deeper self, my truest self as I feel like a kid in a sweet shop after having eaten all of the sweets also. I love the feeling.

I feel at home writing and I feel very blessed that I am able to write and also that I dare to write. I do not filter what I am writing as I want it to be just as it is when it comes out of me, real and raw as nothing else really fits with me or feels right. It is not about trying to sound good or intelligent or anything, it is simply me taking out what is in my brain and putting it on down on paper or as in right now on a laptop. I know I should be writing more and not stopping when life gets tough however I am still learning as we all are so I am not going to beat myself up about that. I have made some huge steps over the last month and ones which I am truly proud of however in all honestly despite me saying this it also fills me with anxiety literally as I write about it as I do know that I have not processed all of this yet. As I say this I realise that this is probably what is causing my anxiety, I know there is a lot to reflect on and accept and process and then in time feel, grieve for and then let go and this will also take me to another level.

I have been getting rid of more things in the house, trying to sell a few bits and donating others to charity which helps others as well as myself as I do connect more with an organised, minimal space. For me organised is not about control, it is about making life easier for myself having a space for things and knowing where things are, only being surrounded by what I need and or love and also about respect. Respect for our items in so far as being able to see them, really see them and treasuring them as I do. It is about my self worth also. It is like the tidy house tidy mind attitude however I believe also for me that it is tidy mind tidy house. When I am feeling connected with myself I like our home to look more organised, it is easier, easier to keep tidy, easier to clean, just easier and calm and with it all being decorated and designed to my personality, it just feels right and natural and free. I feel free.

I am really happy to be writing, I love how I can just type literally what comes up in my brain and in doing so release me as well as connect me. I would like to write more in different ways and I hope to be able to fulfil this for myself. It all comes from me and it all comes from you. Only we can do it and we have to do it not only for ourselves but for others, to help show them the way, to encourage, to inspire, to pass on. We must always pass on as you never know when you need someone to pass on to you. Lets make life better for everyone, share what you know and others will do the same. We all benefit from other people, others ideas, others skills and experience and others love.

Share the love always

Sophie Marie xx

 

 

Setting up an art/creative website

Art, Hope, Inspire, Kindness, Small steps, Uncategorized, Wordpress

It has been a couple of weeks now since I first registered for my new art website and purchased my new domain name sophiemarie.art. I always knew it would be a challenge. Help and support is always available (thanks WordPress) however the day to day additions, alterations and improvements needed to coincide with my goals for my site are a new challenge each and every time. The most recent being the addition of my buy now paypal button which took me numerous hours and conversations and immense frustration to achieve and this was in the end with the help of a couple of people, one being from WordPress. IT has never been my strong suit and I doubt it ever will be. I will always however want to know how to do something even if that means I need to learn it a few times. This then helps me grow as I can remember parts that I learned to help me with the next challenge.

I have now created a few pages, written numerous blog posts, displayed a few images of my art and interior and have a working paypal button. With the addition of more aspects of the webite I was able to assess the scheme that I had chosen (there have been lots of changes) to see if it was still working. Although I like the look of Hemmingway Revisited, it wasn’t displaying my images alongside my blog posts as I would like so I spent time yesterday researching the various schemes (again) and came to my new choice which I feel works better for me and looks more professional at the stage I am at. I know I have another choice lined up for when I have more of my art displayed on a portfolio as some of the other schemes are more geared towards art based/photo/creative websites.

I know I am progressing with the development as I am always looking to see how the site looks with each new addition and how that may translate to others looking at my site. I do have high standards which in the past have caused me a lot of stress however there is also the positive side of this. I know that I have to be really happy with something now to put it out for sale and for me that is all in the finer details. The art produced is one thing however the process throughout is paramount. The process of choosing the right frame with the right look, colour, finish, style and feel. Feel not just in an aesthetic sense but within. I have to see the finished article and say “yes, that’s it”. It has to give me that pull, that excitement where I know it is ready.

As an artist that uses her experiences and knowledge in everything that she does, I know that there is always a depth in all of my work. Like anything in my life, if it is important to me I will do it and I will do it 110%, to the best of my ability which I feel is a strength of mine. I would rather not put work out if I am not truly happy with each aspect as I feel it is a representation of myself and the standard that I hold for myself and for the people that buy my art. I want them to be happy with the whole piece not just the art itself, that is what takes the time, the patience and energy as it all has to run in succession. I want all aspects of my business to not only look professional but be professional. Each detail is important to me down to the layout of the site so that it represents the artist and businesswoman that I am.

I have often been called diligent which is nice as it shows me that people do see how much of myself I put into a project and how I will never give up. I always put my heart and soul into everything that I do and I hope that shows to others. When you buy my art, you buy the heart and soul, the knowledge, the motivation, the spirituality within it. More than ever I want to connect with more people through my work as an artist as well as in counselling and I feel like this is one step further to my goal.

I will never ask people to like and share my work for the sake of it or because I am offering you something free. If you do like my posts and/or my art great, your feedback is much appreciated and if there is something that speaks to you in one of my blogs then please pass it on to someone that you feel may benefit from these words.

If we all help one another, even a little then it all adds up to something monumental. Everything starts with one small step, everything starts with you.

Think about yourself as a greater force than just you. A huge lesson I have learnt quite recently is to always put yourself (or at least try to) out there and by doing this you help to create the ‘ripple effect’.

You learn and you pass it on then whoever that is received by can do the same. There are endless possibilities in creating good in the world. It really isn’t complicated or hard. You just have to start.

With much hope, kindness and love

 

Sophie Marie x

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Never, ever give up

Belief, Emotional abuse, Hope, Inspire, Motivation, Never give up

It has been a challenging couple of days, mainly with the disbelief of some people’s comments. Like anything in life, when you need to talk about a certain issue or challenges that you are facing, there are the people who make you feel worse than you did originally and those that listen with empathy and understanding, giving you the reassurance that you need. I have been talking for a while about how strongly I feel about how more change is needed with the laws or lack of laws on emotional abuse. A change always starts with one person, one thought, one dream, one vision. No great change in the law or society was ever achieved with people constantly talking and never actually doing anything. People have heard me, heard my passion for this and I truly feel in my heart and soul that this is something that I am getting involved with. I do not need to know all of the details right now, I didn’t know how to set up a website and here I am and learning along the way. The most powerful lesson that I learnt recently is that you just have to start. Everything else is a bonus and everything else will fall into place with each step that you make.

You do not have to know all of the details before you start, you just have to start.

You do not need to know how you will achieve each step as you will learn this as you go along.

Your commitment and ultimately the passion that you hold so deeply inside will always be the driving force, it will always keep you going as this is your life blood which will never die. If you believe in something enough, you can do it. I am not saying I know the outcome of anything right now however in a way I do not care as I have the belief, I have my own belief and that of everyone in the world that in 2018 we all should be able to live without emotional abuse and that comments like “it’s just the way it is” is utter crap. One of the biggest things I say to my clients is “just because it has always been that way doesn’t mean it always has to”.

“Just because it has always been that way doesn’t mean it always has to”.

I know when I feel so strongly about something, so full of passion for something that I have to do it and I will do it, however long it takes. I wanted to have a career not a job and I made that my reality and studied to be a counsellor to fulfil my dream. I wanted my own counselling practice and I have it. I wanted to write and I write, I am writing a book and I am writing now on my own website and blog. I wanted to express myself and I do with everything that I do. I wanted to put myself out there for me and for everyone, to help and inspire and support and hopefully to make positive changes in the world. I hope I am achieving this. I wanted to paint and I paint. I wanted to create and I create. I wanted to start putting my art work out for people to see and to hopefully be inspired and have hope in achieving what you want in life. Working hard, believing in yourself and your vision(s), using the challenges you have experienced as positive tools to get you further to where you want to be.

Passion. Vision. Belief. Dedication. Hard work. Never, ever giving up. Ever. Ever. Ever.

When the going gets tough as it inevitably will, reach out for help and support. If this person doesn’t give you what you need or it is counterproductive for you then use that disappointment to propel you forward to someone else, something else that will help. You may feel like giving up at this point, when you feel like no one understands however what I have learnt is there will always be someone who understands and will help, you have just got to keep asking and reaching out. It is these negative experiences that are helping you, they are not the hindrance that you think they are. They are set up as a different kind of stepping stone, one that is loose and trips you up. It is by tripping that you come to realise the importance of what you are doing and how this has made you feel. It is giving you the emotion that you need to say “no that is not good enough”. If they don’t help, try someone else. It is like testing your commitment to your goals. If you stop at the first hurdle or loose stepping stone did you really want it in the first place? If you do have to stop, stop but just for a while until you get back on solid ground and find your footing again then put one foot after the other and go again. You will always have more strength, your strength is abundant. You just have to keep passing these little tests, step by step, minute by minute and they will all add up until one day you look back and say “wow, I did all that”. You can and you will.

Please do not feel that you are alone, there will always be people on your side, championing you and what you want to do, encouraging you to carry on, reminding you how strong you are and if you can not see them right now be that person for yourself and the rest will follow in time.

“Good things come to those that wait. The best things come to those that wait the longest”. Sophie Marie

 

Keep strong always, much love

 

Sophie Marie x